One side love — a fair game?

“I am a left-handed” — one of our new teammates introduced herself during our new joiners meet. “Which hand do you use to code?” — someone joked. Why can’t we use both hands well? By the stats, right now, 13 million Indian can do that. Actually, our hands (legs, ears…) are equally strong, and it is our practice and the mind that brings this difference. Though you may find it difficult to lift dumbbells in one of your hands when you are new to the gym and you will eventually get it fixed. Of course, we are not going to fix the north-south magnetic field lines, nor we are going to stop the plant bending towards the sun.

How do you stop a mother loving her child? That love can inadvertently cause unfairness to some other kid outside the home. I always feel it is inhumane to lock the birds in a cage. You love the bird and wish to provide everything it needs. But your love is absolutely unfair to its life. What happens when you support a particular friend when you got another friend on the other side? It hurts though there could be no perceivable unfairness. I had seen a mentor who appraised two of his mentees differently when they underperformed because of the same problem (and assume there was no difference). Actually, he didn’t aware that he was taking a different stance. Maybe, someone would have spotted the same with me. We rarely pick our religion based on our evaluation of a few.

I can go on with this list. The point is simple. There are a few “one-sided”s that cannot be fixed, even if we wish and a few that we don’t want to fix. The remaining are those that we are unaware of our “one-sided”ness and that is where we can attempt to fix as fixing them could make things healthy. We cannot always be cautious and conscious, but we can progressively improve. Be aware and try to be fair whenever possible :)